Oh the good ole quarter-life crisis. It hits all of us at one point during our twenties. Sometimes multiple times where you suddenly have no idea what direction you’re headed and you don’t know if you’re going to like where you end up.
Welcome to every other person’s life.
Over the last 4 years I’ve lost myself in relationships and lost myself in technology. I thought I wanted to be in advertising, and then a pediatrician and then lawyer. Now I’m on to tourism and PR. I still haven’t figured it out.
WE ARE ALL LOST
It’s paralyzing sometimes and lonely, but the best thing you can do is keep on moving. Even if you don’t know where you’re headed, do something. Start something.
In Asia, I met people who were flying by the seat of their pants when it came to doing things. When they felt a need to go somewhere, they went. When they saw a need that required them to stay and work, they stayed. When they saw an opportunity to talk to someone, they did so. They viewed everything they wished to do in life as fully attainable. It was inspiring. The more they jumped at opportunities, the more opportunities presented themselves. So I began to form a habit of saying yes to new opportunities and talked myself INTO scary and psycho experiences when mostly people talk themselves out of them.
98% of our obstacles are made up in our minds
That’s why the odds of doing/starting something brand new are against us and why it’s so damn scary to think about. Not to mention, you’ll want to ask for advice and you’ll get all types of misguided and doubtful opinions. Those people are projecting on to you what they doubt in themselves. I had a conversation once with a friend’s parent about what I wanted to do with my life. I said my only criteria was that I didn’t want a 9-5 job. They laughed out loud and told me I should come back to reality!?!?! I laughed back. They obviously had no idea about the kind of person I was.
Ignore everyone’s opinions and start whatever the thing is that you want to start.
It will be weird and you will be pushed way outside of your comfort zone. Heck, you might not have any of the qualifications and you may have zero experience but I guarantee, whatever your thing is, there is room for you to do it and do it big.
The best part is, you have so much power right now.
Feeling totally lost means you can choose absolutely any direction and you have nothing to lose. It takes courage to start doing something. People will notice. The places you find yourself will be wonderful.
I'm a curious traveler with an intentional and outward approach to life hanging out in Ontario, Canada for the time being. I seek to write honestly & creatively, hopefully empowering you to construct your life exactly how you dream of it.